Thursday, December 6, 2007

Family this Fall










I have not shared any of my photos of family who have visited this fall. We had such a good time when Travis, Natalie and Alice were here on Halloween night.
I guess Glen took the pictures, because he isn't in any of them! We had dinner at the airport with them before they hopped on their flight back home. Natalie's grandpa had passed away, and we reaped the benefit of their travels back to Kansas to attend the services.

Alice is growing so fast and I have only seen her three times in her whole life. She really likes her momma and daddy, but she warmed up to us after an hour or so. She was just taking her first confidant baby steps after an unfortunate accident on a wood floor that held-up her progress a little.

Devin was home for Thanksgiving, and although we missed Dylan, Brandon and Amy, we were happy as clams to have him here for a whole week. His blog about our trip to Weston is much better than mine, so read it instead! http://raughtic.blogspot.com/ Adrienne took all the photos of our happy Thanksgiving event, so you will have to beg her to blog and share the pics. As always, it is never easy to say "goodbye" to one of our L. A. sons, and because we had such a wonderful time, it is difficult to hold back the tears when they head thru security and wave one last time from the other side of the gate window.

Last weekend, I threw myself a birthday party even though my birthday isn't until Dec. 12. I invited three good friends and their daughters, making 8 of us in all. But that is another blog...just as soon as my daughter sends the pictures to me so I can include them for you all to see.



Monday, August 6, 2007

Summer's End

August 1st is back to school for me. It seems like the wierdest time to end my summer, because it gets so hot here in August and summer is just getting into full gear. The sun is baking as I walk out of our climate controlled building and slide into hot leather seats. My car's air conditioner isn't working the greatest and it doesn't even begin to cool the interior by the time I reach home about 15 minutes later. Driving home is usually a time for me to unwind and think about my family. Glen and I slip into our post-vacation routine easily, so once I am home, I don't realize it is so disagreeable outside until I step out to water the thirsty plants and get attacked by a swarm of biting mosquitos! Still, I am not ready to let go of summer.

Summer is a time for reading grown-up books rather than "kid" books. I have read many wonderful books over my summer vacation. But the dearest to my heart is an old story by Betty Smith called, "A Tree Grows In Brooklyn." Francie is the main character and the story is a fictionalized account of her childhood growing up with a strong mother and an alcoholic father. Smith does a wonderful job pacing her story and building wonderful characters to fall in love with. If you haven't read it, I suggest you put it on your list.

Other big news in our family at summer's end is that Adrienne started her new job today! I can't wait to hear all about it and I am sure she is going to do well.

Welcome to the world of paychecks and TGIF!

Thursday, July 12, 2007

Just because...

At lot of life happens within the family unit and it is not always easy to keep up. So before Glen and I leave on a wonderful seven day vacation with long time friends, I would like to tell you each that I do think of you and ponder just what it is that you are doing at the moment or how you are feeling about your job, your significant other, your passions and life in general. Cell phones are great, but they won't replace a face to face. And even then, its difficult to get a few moments for heart to heart talks, one of the disadvantages to living several hundred miles apart.

So whatever pressing issue there may be, remember that your family supports you, we will be here to cheer you on, cry with you or laugh with you or just listen when you need to talk. We are never too busy to hear about what is happening in your life or help you out in whatever way we can.

We feel that you are each brilliant and resourceful and that you can take very good care of yourself, we have seen what a wonderful job you have done thus far. You work, play or study hard, fulfill your dreams and manage to take care of one another as well.

A great day for me is when I lie in bed at the end of the day and smile, remembering that I have spoken to each of you before the day's end! Love you, Mom

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

The Diet Dance

I started another new diet today...I won't tell you what it is until I see if it works. But let's just say it is rather unconventional but in an odd sort of way it makes sense to me. And I didn't have to buy hardly anything to get started! Have I piqued your interest yet?

Diets can be tricky. Sometimes they require adding items to your shopping list that are expensive, oversized (like my HUGE container of Metamucil), or just plain wierd. After a few months all that extra stuff goes into the trash or gets stuffed to the back of my pantry until I throw them out a few years later. Diets get trickier when you have to shell out money to join a gym, because everyone knows working-out is essential to a good diet. Then there are the chemicals you need to take as you diet; garlic pills, fish oil pills, flax seed oil, coconut oil. I could go on, but you get the picture.

Another thing about diets is that they always begin with a New York Times bestseller! So one can't simply begin dieting, there is much reading, research and preparing to do in the initial stages. Next comes the grocery scouring...you know...slowing walking through the grocery store, eyes peeled for foods that look yummy, delicious, or chocolatey but also pass the "read the label" test. Once the groceries are all unloaded at home, you are starving because you have only been allowed to gaze on all your favorite fat filled friends when you realize you have nothing to eat because you have to prepare and cook it first!

Sometimes people might end up watching reality TV programs based on weight loss and dieting. That's when you know you have hit a "dieting low." Also, it may seem like a logical step to begin looking for support from fellow dieters on-line, I have heard there are millions of blogs on the subject :) Luckily, I haven't been that desperate, yet. (Or have I?)

There are many charming and not so charming names for diets, too. South Beach, Beverly Hills Diet, Grapefruit Diet, Atkins Diet, Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, even some that have been around for years like the Scarsdale Diet or the infamous Cabbage Soup Diet, ugh!
And then there is the instant weight loss program, don't even get me started on liposuction and lipodissolve. That is Cheat Dieting for the wealthy!

But this diet is different. Based on scientific principles of digestion, it is so simple and so cheap that one can simply shop for food in a normal sort of way so long as one attends to the matters of digestion while one eats. No...I'm not going to be bulimic or use laxatives...but this is just as simple.

Ah, but I have already said too much, and as I really have no clue whether it works or not, I will remain optimistic. But if it does work, and I drop all this unsightly weight around my middle, I shall be the first to pass along the diet.

For now, it shall be known only as: Rhonda's Mystery Diet. Talk to you in ten pounds!

Sunday, July 8, 2007

The worst place I ever lived...

We lived in Wilson, Oklahoma the year I was a fourth grader. So many things I had come to love and count on were no longer available. My father had moved our family to Wilson from Los Angeles and we all experienced our own variety of culture shock. But for me, that year was particularly difficult. I missed the excitement, opportunity, and culture of Los Angeles. There was always somewhere to go, something to do, or people to be with. Instead, I found myself immersed in a culture so backward and simple I felt I would die of boredom.

While in Wilson, we lived in two different houses, the first so run-down that one could literally peer through a huge gap in the wall, past the floor to the ground below. The second house was nestled on a few acres right in the bend of a creek amidst a pecan grove. The person who rented it to our family made us promise to take care of the grounds, harvest the pecans, and "not go into the room that was locked."

Many atrocities occured while we lived in that little white house by the creek. A fire in the living room started when someone carelessly draped a window curtain over the open-flamed heater, popular at the time. My sister and I valiently put the fire out before it spread but much damage was done in a matter of a few minutes. We were given stern warnings by the grown-ups, including the fire department for our efforts, but I can still remember our decision to fight the fire instead of running outside like everyone else in the house did.

My brother found that if he removed the pins from the hinges, the door to the "locked" room could be lifted out of it's opening, thus allowing us entrance. It was probably the beginning of my love for antiques, because I can still remember all the cool, old furniture stacked in the room that we weren't allowed to use. And I obsessed about having that room as my very own bedroom, instead of all four of us crammed into the freezing, drafty lean-to we used for sleeping. My father wouldn't allow us to breach the promise we had made with the homeowner, so that was the only time I can remember being inside the locked room, however, I continued my dream of having the room as my own until we moved from that place.

As for the pecans, I can remember it was not our families' priority to harvest them nor to take care of the grounds. We did plant a garden of sorts, but I remember that we all lost interest and the weeds finally took over before we actually reaped many vegetable rewards. However, my sister and I found that the pecans were like "cash" just laying there on the ground and we often picked up a wagon load and hauled them off to the produce store to have them weighted and converted to quick cash. My share of the money always went for something I had been dying to have, like a baton so I could be a "twirler."

Dad moved on to Natoma, Kansas a few months before the rest of us. He had been out of work and found employment in Plainville and would come for us when he had saved enough money for rent, etc. That period was one of chaos and adventure for the four of us. We roamed the town doing pretty much as we pleased. Mom wasn't in to baking, so we were always starving and out of desperation, my sister and I would whip up something from the "commodity" stash, involving the main ingredients; dried eggs, flour, sugar or peanut butter. We never used a recipe, we didn't need one, if it was hot and sweet, we would eat it!

Life didn't seem a lot more exciting in Natoma, but eventually I came to appreciate a few things about life in a small, quiet, mid-western town. I attended junior high through high school there but never really gained a sense of "community" although I consider it an important part of my roots. And because of that one year in Oklahoma, I can look back and smugly declare Wilson "the worst place I ever lived!"

Saturday, July 7, 2007

"I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore..."

If you haven't done so yet, then run, don't walk to your nearest theater to view Michael Moore's "Sicko." In all fairness, I must warn you that you will be extremely pissed-off at the end, so plan ahead to do something completely fun or go out and get drunk! We didn't take the advice and ended up in a total "slump" afterward.
Realizing that this is Moore's viewpoint, and taking into account the slant and bias that he added for his desired effect, we are still plenty concerned with the direction of health care in the United States. Anyone who chooses to ignore this issues is simply a fool . The big question is what will we do about it? It is time to unite and conquer! Remember the slogan from the movie Network? "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore" That is exactly what Americans with or without health care need to do.
We have plenty of expertise right here in our own family...teachers, entertainers, lawyers, health care providers, accountants...we should be able to come up with a plan.
Get involved, start here...http://www.blogcatalog.com/post-tag/sicko
Or maybe we should all move to France or Cuba...Canada is too cold!

Saturday, May 5, 2007

The Estrogen Ocean

Shopping with my beautiful daughter today, I was once again reminded of how witty, intelligent and independent she is. Sometimes its like we're not even related, so tightly bound am I to the persona I have adopted as an elementary teacher. She is free to be reckless, out-spoken and charming while I am cloaked in the fog of estrogen-starved middle-age. Not only can she think circles around me, she tries to be very patient with my halting, often ridiculous comments and guess at what I am trying to communicate.
My own poor mother was a victim of a similar fate, yet I am quite certain I was never as patient or understanding as my own daughter has been with me. Maybe it is because Dri's own paternal grandmother was such a loving influence on her in her earlier years, whereas I had no such role model. But recently I was reading from Louise Erdrich's "The Painted Drum" and came across a passage that quite fit the explanation of my relationship with my own mother. It reads like this...
"It is difficult for a woman to admit that she gets along with her own mother--somehow it seems a form of betrayal, at least, it used to among other women of my generation. To join in the company of women, to be adults, we go through a period of proudly boasting of having survived our own mother's indifference, anger, overpowering love, the burden of her pain, her tendency to drink or tee-total, her warmth or coldness, praise or criticism, sexual confusions or embarassing clarity. It isn't enough that she sweat, labored, bore her daughters howling or under total anesthesia or both. No. She must be responsible for our psychic weaknesses the rest of her life. It is all right to feel kinship with your father, to forgive. We all know that. But your mother is held to a standard so exacting that it has no principles. She simply must be to blame."
Having read the passage several times before moving on in the chapter, I must admit I was confronted with past sins concerning my treatment of my own mother.
I would have to say, one of my mother's most loving legacies is that she seemed oblivious to my careless regard for our relationship most of the time. Occasionally, I would go too far and she would rally in return, letting me know in no uncertain terms that I had crossed the line.
I have heard it said that the older we get, the more we become who we really are. I guess the fact that all my mother can do at this moment in time is smile when I walk in her room at the nursing home, shows how really sweet, gentle and loving she is, through and through. I suppose that is all a daughter can ask and everything a mother should be.

Wednesday, May 2, 2007

The teacher let the fools out

It's May and its time for school to let out...not because the calendar says so, that's not until May 23, but because the kids say so! Last week a fourth grader was caught smoking a cigarette on the playground during recess, right under the well-trained noses of the recess staff! The teachers didn't catch him, the other students reported him! Other kids are using more violent tactics and beating each other up during P.E., bringing guns and ammo to school, or just shocking the teachers by reporting "private bathroom moments" for shock value. Yep, it may be different kids with different approaches, I'm pretty sure I've seen or heard it all. But what it all boils down to is we're all ready, the end is in sight, yet it never gets here quite fast enough.

Saturday, April 21, 2007

U Can't Touch This...


It is my nephew's birthday today. I don't know exactly how old he is, but I know I can figure it out and get within a year. The number of years since his birth don't really matter as much as the fact that he is still here with us.
A phone ringing in the dead of the night changed our lives in a way we may never fully understand. The caller was my sister, delivering the shocking news that Travis had been rushed to a hospital in Wichita, Kansas after a serious car accident. She had been warned that he was in critical condition in the ICU Burn Unit and that his prognosis was uncertain.
My husband and I sat stunned for several hours debating whether we should wake the kids and tell them their beloved cousin was fighting for his life and no one could predict the outcome. Travis had just spent the night with us and left early in the morning for some other obligation that eventually took him to this tragic event.
Many tears, prayers and trips to Wichita later, Travis was delivered back into our family fold ...whole but not unscarred. He has become our family treasure, because he will bear the visual scars of that night forever, and we will never forget how close we came to losing him.
To meet him, you would never know of the months of rehabilitation he endured, the burn garment he wore for months and months, or the extensive reconstructive surgeries he tolerated, he never talks about the accident. Travis is a survivor in every way. He is one of the most amazing people I know, funny, witty, intelligent and humble! Our family has been blessed to have the opportunity to love Travis and I hope we all pause to remember him as he marks this important anniversary of his birth! Happy Birthday, Travis!

Thursday, April 19, 2007

Maundy Thursday'73

This blog site is a gift to three very special people in my life, the event being our 34th wedding anniversary. I wouldn't normally think of myself as the sort of person who would blog, but I have decided to surprise someone very special and at the same time prove to him that I can figure this out on my own. I have enjoyed reading their blogs, for obvious reasons, and in the meantime have learned that I crave this glimpse into their private thoughts. So, here goes!
It all began on Maundy Thursday 34 years ago. I didn't even tell my dear friend and roomie at the time that I was eloping that morning. She was stunned when she came home from class and saw my sister and I preparing to leave for my big day! My sister and her then husband, Gene, stood up with us at a small private ceremony in the chapel of a Methodist church. We did attend counseling class before our wedding, so it wasn't like we didn't plan well, we just didn't have the money or inclination to have a regular church wedding. I have to say, I don't feel like we ever missed out on anything special. I was ecstatic to be marrying this man, and I couldn't wait to make it legal. We ate a special supper at the Elks Lodge afterward, said goodbye to our best man and woman and headed for Grand Island, Nebraska to meet our "teacher buddies" at the horse races.
The first thing my new husband bought me was a great new pair of leather shoes, big chunky heeled things. Yeah, I was barefoot, but not pregnant! He always teases me about buying those shoes for me. We had a wonderful wedding night, thank goodness we'd practiced before hand and the next day headed off for the track. I loved watching the horses, but oddly enough, we didn't return until many years later. On our honeymoon, we won an Exacta, a whopping $50 and we were so excited!
We returned to our newly acquired farm on Easter Sunday. Glen, who was a high school teacher and coach at the time, had Monday off so he chased off the chivariers while I studied for finals.
Four years later we embraced parenthood with all its wonderful, terrifying responsibities and didn't slow down until number three was born in 1981.
Twenty-six years later and all the love, sweat, and tears of parent and family life have brought us to this day. A day when the doorbell rings and an unexpectant mom opens the door to find herself face to face with her daughter, living 40 minutes away but so busy we rarely see her. Seemingly a small surprise that instantly turns to giddy laughter and then tears. For only a parent can feel such joy at a small gesture of love from one of her own, who has grown into a fine adult and friend! Very soon we will all be together to celebrate her graduation from law school. Our sons and their significant others will arrive from Los Angeles and we will fill our tiny house with all the relatives from both sides of our family. Right now it is too wonderful to imagine and we are busy making plans to make it an event to remember.
And there you have it, Maundy Thursday then and now, but so much in-between! Love, Mom